Loving Yourself Whole

You heard it time and again: love yourself first before you can love someone else.❤️

This actually rings true. In order to become your #bestmeever fit for that right person who deserves you, you have to learn how to embrace yoursef whole, flaws and all☝🏻

Now I ask you, how much do you love yourself?🤔 Very much? Not quite? Just right? Only you can answer that.

You might say hey, it’s not easy to love one’s sources of insecurities. True. But it’s possible though.

Remember: your flaws make you unique and more human, so to speak. Besides, the one who deserves your best will be able to look beyond those…so why can’t you?😊

Sounds difficult? Not really if you start inquiring within🙏🏻

Yes. You don’t have to look far and wide. You just have to recognize the gifts you already have.❤️ There will be times when your insecurities might get the best of you, especially if things don’t work out as planned. But did it ever occur to you that it’s actually re-directing you towards somewhere better…where you’re exactly meant to be?😊

The next time you do a self check, don’t get frustrated. Instead, be excited. You have a lot of potential within you, you just have to nurture them as you work around your perceived limitations.

You don’t need the validation of others to do that. You just need to make that choice: of loving yourself whole, no ifs, no buts😊❤️🙏🏻

Try this: every single day, upon waking up, face the mirror and tell yourself how grateful you are for the person you’ve become. It’s a simple exercise that will help boost your positive affirmations all through out the day.

Remember to support that by counting your blessings, big or small, as the day progresses. You will realize that you won’t run out of things to be grateful for. 🙏🏻❤️😊

Do these regularly and witness the change in you. You just brought yourself closer to becoming your #bestmeever 🙏🏻❤️

Keeping Your Word

So true. I couldn’t agree more. ☝🏻

I am one person who never makes a promise which I couldn’t keep (there will be times it may come in late due to serious unforseen situations, but nontheless, I will still keep my word). I always try to consider how the other party would feel if I didn’t honor my word.

That will surely suck I know. Been there, been that.😳

Others say I trust too much. But hey, that’s me as a person. It’s not an excuse for them not to honor their word right?

Remember that your word, or your pinky swear, is a binding contract by itself. Together with it is your integrity and credibility☝🏻

Would you want to tarnish your relationships and reputation simply because you fail to keep your promise? Not worth it, I tell you. Totally not.🙏🏻

I understand that there will be times when keeping your word may be difficult because of both internal and external circumstances.

However, keep this in mind: no one forced you to commit in the first place. You have made that promise using your free will. Therefore, I believe, you must do whatever it takes to fulfill it, or at the very least come up with something close to it🤔 Again, when there’s a will, there’s a way. No excuse can overshadow that!

I personally have done that time and again: when the going gets tough, sometimes even impossible, I still think of ways on how I can keep my word. And that helped me build (and keep) my relationships through the years. And I will always be grateful for that🙏🏻

No amount of money can buy you genuine trust. So consider looking at what is priceless before making yet another promise😊

Tip: don’t make a promise when you’re overwhelmed by your emotions e.g. Happy, sad etc. It clouds your judgement. Think about it a hundred times over before finally committing. Remember, you have a lot at stake. And that’s an understatement❤️

And for you, who may have broken a promise, think again. You may be at the losing end, regardless if your action caused you temporary relief from the situation🖐🏻

You may have just handed the scissors to someone who you never wanted to cut ties with☝🏻

Blessings Beyond Betrayals

Ouch. Now really, that hurts.😭

Has anyone of you guys experienced being betrayed by people closest to you? It’s a life changing experience, I tell you. Been there, been that.

A friend of 15 years.

Staff of more than 3 years.

Partner for a year.

And then I lost track of the number of people whom I have tried sharing my whole life with fully, but ended up being stabbed in the back.😞

Yup, it gave me trust issues. But hey, can you blame me? Geez, after what happened, it totally changed the way I look at my relationships. But in the process, I got to reflect as well and made me realize several things, which could also be of value to you guys experiencing the same right now:

  1. I don’t have to take the blame for what happened. As long as my intentions were clear, I have nothing to feel guilty about.
  2. These people came into my life to teach me a lesson. A lot of people have already told me before that I was too nice. I never listened. Until all these happened. Ok, one for the books.
  3. What happened should not define me and what I can still do there after. It was hard to move on at first but it was possible. Really.
  4. All those betrayals, were actually blessings in disguise. I grew in the process by re-assessing the relationships I had and striving even harder while turning my life around. They inspired me to be my best. Seriously. Ever heard the saying that the best revenge is being truly happy and becoming even more successful than before? I took that to heart.☝🏻
  5. It opened new doors which allowed me to meet a whole lot of people who are meant to stay in my life and help me grow to the fullest. It brought me out of my own box, and into the world. I might say, outside is pretty amazing!😊

I know that all these may seem easier said than done. But please take note that recovery is one process one shouldn’t force to hurry. Time does heal all wounds. Just let things be.❤️

So for all of you who are currently hurting, know that eventually you have to make that fateful choice of moving on and forward. It’s just one chapter of your life, not your happily ever after.

And who knows, maybe someday, forgiving those who have wronged you will be part of your story. But for now, just enjoy your journey to becoming your #bestmeever .🙏🏻

Trust the process🌈🙏🏻❤️.

A Matter of Opinion

So given this definition, should the opinion of others really matter?☝🏻

This post was inspired by the numerous people who approached me for advice regarding how they can handle the criticisms of others better. None of them had issues about the compliments they received though, LOL😂

My answer was simple: you know yourself better than anyone else. You know your worth. Take it from there.

Now, take it from me, through the years I have heard a lot of people say different things about me, both good and bad. 😅Admittedly, I used to get upset when I get bashed for whatever reason, but I have learned to take the bashings lightly.💅🏻👏🏻

My only question was: how will my reaction help me grow?❤️

It was no longer about whether it was true or not; it was how I can actually take it and move on and forward from the experience.🙏🏻

You see, I may not have the power to control what others have to say about me, but I certainly have the power to choose how I will react to them❤️☝🏻

And through the years, I have kept my self worth intact. Again, life is too short to try to please others always. To each his own, so let me be.

At the end of the day, I can still be my #bestmeever , regardless of what others may say❤️🙏🏻😊

So the next time you hear an opinion about you, listen to it and weigh everything first before throwing a fit.

If it will help you grow, apply it; if not, let go☝🏻

#bestmeever : Your resolution for life

It’s that time of the year once more when almost everyone makes (and breaks!) promises😂

Enter the new year. Meet the new “MEs”. Yup, and the cycle goes on for those who chose to embark on their updated personal journey. So what will it be for this year?🤔

Sounds promising, don’t you think. But hey, listing down these promises won’t do you any good unless you bring them to life. ☝🏻

Much like becoming your #bestmeever ❤️ It can’t happen overnight, more so you don’t need to wait every January first to start. You just need to choose to be your best and commit to it. Not only all year round—but for the rest of your life🙏🏻😊

It’s easier said than done. Many times I have seen and heard people break their new year’s resolutions. 😅 I, on the other hand, have stopped making mine for quite some time now.😂

I realized that being my #bestmeever isn’t a one-time wonder👑☝🏻

It’s something which needs constant nurturing, long after the new year festivities are over.

It’s not a hype — it’s my way of life❤️🙏🏻

Now think about it: are you up for the challenge? Can you commit to this life-long resolution of becoming your best?

Looking forward to seeing you grow even more in thecoming months😊

From 2017 to my #bestmeever

It was a pretty interesting year for me.😊 A lot of opportunities, new ventures, new friends, and realizations filled my year that was. ❤️

And now, one day before the dawn of the new year, I decided to list down some of the important lessons I’ve learned this year which helped me become my #bestmeever :

1. You can burn bridges and be grateful that you did in the end. I mean, seriously, gone are the days when you have to keep people close while you suffer in silence. Life is too short to spend it miserably with people who make you feel less of a person that you really are. So when in doubt, cut. ☝🏻

2. You can always try something new and be good at it. Great even. Yup, all you need is to be passionate about it, whatever it is and regardless of what others may say, and you’ll go places. 💪🏼

3. Closed doors will always be blessings in disguise. Promise: whenever I lose an opportunity which I thought I wanted, I always end up with something better, with me nodding in the end while murmuring “so that’s why…”. Don’t freak out when a door closes. The next one (or even a bunch of them!) will just be around the corner.

4. My #bestmeever is no one else’s business. I mean, hey, to each his own right? Some people think I am doing so many things at the same time. Let me be guys!😅 I mean as long as it makes me happy and complete and I don’t harm anyone as I grow in the process…all is good, don’t you think? Case closed❤️

5. The universe has a unique way of connecting each one of us. Trust the process. 2017 allowed me to be reunited with people from my past in the weirdest ways possible e.g. a friend of my ex became my business partner, a former colleague referred me to a new endeavor etc.. But hey, I am not complaining. It made my year interesting indeed.

6. You will always have bashers around you. Same with fake friends. Give them even more reasons to hate you by becoming very successful. 🙏🏻 Plot Twist!!!😂

7. Quality time for Family and Quality Friends (and special someone). Priceless. Work will never compensate for the lost opportunity to show how much these people mean to you and vise versa. You can always find time. Work can wait. Remember, they’re worth it❤️

8. You are never too young or too old to become the best version of yourself. You have your #bestmeever in you. You just have to set it free👑🌈🦄

So there. I hope you guys will be able to relate to some of these and hopefully, they get to help you in the process.

For now, enjoy the last few hours before the clock strikes 12.

2018 will be one very amazing year for all of us. Believe❤️🙏🏻😊

To everyone reading this,

Sending you all much love, light, positivity and a whole lot of possibilities this 2018❤️😊

My #bestmeever inspiration (Part 1)

I can’t even think of the proper adjective to describe these amazing women (I am guessing though that this is the after effect of my winter getaway in Tokyo. Brain freeze)❄️☃️

To put it candidly, they won me over. ❤️

When I was younger (and less busy then), I used to watch their talk shows alot. 😂 I couldn’t let a day pass me by without seeing these three on the boob tube.

Each of them had their own style of hosting, but they had one similar quality which I admired the most eversince: they were very inspiring. And that’s an understatement.🙏🏻

Truth be told, they had a lasting effect on me. They inspired me to become my #bestmeever in the process❤️🌈🦄

So before I continue, let me introduce you to the three people I am hoping to meet in my lifetime and perhaps share my book with:

Meet Tyra. #tyrataughtme to embrace my flaws. That it’s ok to be imperfect and yet be totally happy in the process. Makes sense rather than sulking about things which I couldn’t change, right? 😃

Ellen. She is definitely a burst of sunshine and energy. She lights up the room with her presence. She taught me to be true to myself. That it’s ok to be different and yet be totally loved for who and what you are. Amen to that.🙏🏻

And lastly, Oprah. Wow. Just wow. This woman rocks. She speaks with so much sense and compassion that she’s able to move mountains with her words. She taught me the importance of reaching out and making a difference in the lives of others through my words and actions. Trust me, it’s very rewarding, so to speak.☝🏻

I just had to do this appreciation post because I realized that I am what I am now because of them. Even though I haven’t met them yet in person, their stories (and everything about them, really) inspired me.

I wish that my book will be able to do just that to all my readers❤️🙏🏻😊

In the meantime, here’s a virtual copy of my book, which I asked the Universe to share with them. Maybe someday. ❤️🙏🏻

My gratitude sails on.

Thank you Tyra, Ellen and Oprah❤️